post drnk

Not drnk now. Sobered up by sleeping it off at the house; my house (or Ryan's really) not Liz's.

I hated the men there aside from Ryan and Ham and her housemates. They were pugnacious retarded middle aged men who are really misogynistic. They were blaming women for their own lack of ability to make a relationship work. People, people: really, at a certain point, if you are in the reject pile at 40, its your own damned fault (there are a few exceptions: divorces don't make people rejects, especially if it was a long marriage, or the ending of another long-term relationship that is not formalized... but if you've spent the majority of your adult life single and are bitter therefore, then it is possibly your own damned fault).

Post baby-boomer Americans (and post 68-Europeans) are fucking stupid. While it is insanely true that they created a new potential for openness and honesty in relationships between men and women, they really blew it in making it just about selfish behavior. I am not waxing poetic about the good old days when I would be barefoot and pregnant (because that shit is also beyond the pale), I wish that somehow society would grow-up and develop standards in relationships that were more meaningful than the ones we have. We still have the bourgeois decadence of 'omg i must get married because i'm thirty and have a house and kids....' and the waffling between that and the 'it's good to get laid and have someone' mentality. I refuse to believe there isn't a third path somehow. A way for honest and sane relations between men and women (or men and men, women and women, such as it were, because I think that gay men and lesbians have to totally forge new trails in how their relationships work). Something that isn't bullshit clinging to society's standards of the white-picket fence or the selfish 'what am I getting out of this?' as our fucked-up legacy from the 60s and 70s.

And, maybe women in one way are the greater benefactors of our modern society than men. Women still have the things that have always made females in society functional (our ability to work together, empathy and the ability to endure almost anything and work hard for a long-term goal), but we now also have the things that gave men an advantage: access to education, ability to take care of ourselves, travel, work in any field. Women in American society are in the process of becoming the dominant gender. We are not only the hands that rock the cradle now, but we rock it alone more and more often, while working the jobs that keep the country going. We are more educated than men now (58% of college graduates are now women, not men). Politicians aren't necessarily catering to the dumbass stereotypical angry white males, but the angry women who have to work 8-12 hours a day and raise their kids alone.


It isn't that there is anything wrong with men. They are just used to getting by on the fact that they were once providers and breadwinners who never had to do so much as twiddle a fork under a tap in the house. We haven't gone back and revised the ego issue that men used to have because they were catered to as providers of cash for food and housing in past eras. Women don't need men anymore to provide. We who are of the straightish persuasion want relationships with men, but not with fucking assholes who hold themselves in some superior asinine way to us, while not even in the slightest our equal in terms of housework, education, intellect or ability to talk to another person and listen. For those friends of mine having sons right now, I hope they raise them to be strong, good people who don't have these fatal male sociological flaws. Really. We need to get over this Bronsonesque bullshit.